Anonymous asked: I'm going to kill myself tonight. I'll miss your blog the most.

no you’re not going to kill yourself because you have so much ahead of you. you need to realize that people love you. a part of me would die inside knowing i couldn’t help someone. please don’t do this. you are way stronger than your mind is telling you. if you ever need to talk, message me. i guarantee that you will get through whatever you’re going through. if you take your life, it will never come back. it’s not worth it. please stay on this earth.. at least for me :( i’ll miss you way to much. i wouldn’t know how to live everyday knowing i couldn’t save someone as amazing as you.

Anonymous asked: I have trouble talking to my crush. Do you have any advice for me?

talk to him about something you have in common! like do you have any classes together? does he play any sports that you are familiar with? does he have any mutual friends or hobbies? just be yourself! this one boy in my class plays basketball so I always ask him something like “how was your last game?” or “how’s basketball going?” questions like that make it seem like you are interested in his life but not in a creepy way! hope I helped! 

Anonymous asked: oh yeah, haha i get it. when i meant that he didnt tell me, he kept their whole relationship from me. if i was playing with his phone and she texted him, id ask him who that was, and hed kinda just mumble and say no one. (maybe just a weird guy thing?) but maybe i dont know as much about him as i thought i did or whatever. we talked for four years nonstop never missing a day, buttt i guess things cant always stay the same. but anyway, thanks for talking to me!:)

i’m close with my brother and he did not tell me about his girlfriend when they started going out! it was really werid. idk why guys do that.. don’t let one girl get in the way of your friendship with him. keep trying! anytime<3 i’m always here for you (: hope it works out!

Anonymous asked: that nothing he said could change it. I've been crying so much and I can't even stand to look at myself because of it. Is there anything at all that you can think of that could make this better? I need him to know how perfect he is to me. How wonderful he is and how he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I love him so much, and I hate myself for treating him that way.

you need to tell him how you really feel! don’t cry! whatever happens happens for a reason.. and if doesn’t work out than that just means your relationship wasn’t going to work out anyways. just try as hard as you can and if that isn’t enough than there’s nothing you can do :( i’m sorry. let him know how much he means to you. you can’t take back what you said but you can make your future better than your past.

Anonymous asked: I said some horrible, hurtful things to my boyfriend when we were fighting. I think I have bi-polar and I'm going to be in therapy as soon as I can but it's still no reason to do something like what I did. I didn't mean any of it but my words cut him so deep I have no idea how to fix it and he's still so hurt. I've apologized so many times but I don't think it will ever be enough. I want him to know how sorry I am but I know if he said anything like that to me I would be so heartbroken (...)

tell him everything you just said to me. when you’re mad you say some really dumb things. it happens with my mom sometimes. it’s really the worst feeling after :( that’s why when you’re mad you need to walk away and talk about it later on when you’ve calmed down. just say you’re really sorry from the bottom of your heart. i think he deserves a creative apology. like maybe write him a letter and actually mail it to him or something cute like that! show him that care!

Anonymous asked: thanks:) um im not close to his girlfriend at all. ive only met her once and she didnt speak to me. i basically had a one-sided conversation with her. and she doesnt want to meet any of his friends.. maybe shes shy? idk i doubt it.. but what hurt me the most was that i found out about their relationship over facebook. he didnt even tell me-- or anyone really. and it also doesnt help that my friends talk about how we're gonna end up together & how its assumed-__- it reminds me of how we dont talk

i’m sorry :( try to change that. maybe he’s just the type of person who doesn’t open up about his life to others. that doesn’t mean he doesn’t trust you.. maybe he just never had the time to tell you. idk if you know what i mean, but some people don’t want to text you and be like “I GOT A GIRLFRIEND!” my best advice is to talk to him as best friends. tell him how you feel, but don’t forget to let him know that you don’t want to ruin his current relationship. your only feelings are as great friends.

Anonymous asked: (boyfriend continued) and i love him very much, but sometimes he brings up things that i did wrong in our past relationship, and idk why. i didnt cheat on him or anything like that just i was not talking to him much and blowing him off, it really upsets me because ive really changed, i'm a way better girlfriend and i love him a lot but i dont think he thinks ive actually changed for good. what do i do?

just continue talking to him as much as you can. idk why he’s bringing up the past, i guess he might have been really hurt.. but tell him how you aren’t like that anymore! you were nervous about being with him. now you’re more comfortable with the idea. just be the best girlfriend you can be and soon he’ll change his mind on you!

Anonymous asked: and i feel like the conversation goes nowhere when i do try to talk to him.. i feel like hes not listening anymore:( he knows that im sad about this, and when we do talk about it, he just asks me what i want him to do to fix it, but i cant tell him that i want him to talk to me more because i feel like that would be super selfish of me to do and i dont want to have any forced convos.. so i dont.. and its killing me. i just want to have what we had before his girlfriend stepped in:( help?please:)

it’s pretty clear to me that you really care about your relationship with him! relationship i mean friendship! if you were best friends with him before he started dating this girl then i think it’s not a big deal if you talk to him. she may feel uncomfortable with it but she should trust him and know it’s nothing more than friends. maybe try talking to him. explain to him that you miss him just being there. i bet he misses talking to you too but doesn’t know how to admit it. just be honest. it’s up to you if you’re close with his girlfriend or not.. but maybe you could tell her that you just like him as a best friend. tell her you would never go any farther than that. that will give her the idea that it’s really an innocent best friend relationship.

Anonymous asked: the problem is, is that we dont talk anymore.. like at all.. because his current girlfriend isnt comfortable with our relationship. like i get that. i guess id feel the same way if i was in her position.. since we go to the same school and we're in the same grade and stuff.. but like ah! it sucks because we're BEST FRIENDS, and i cant even talk to him anymore:( theres so much that i want to tell him, but i cant because he isnt caught up on my life anymore and (to be continued hah)

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Anonymous asked: ah! ive been surfing tumblr for someone i'm following that i can talk to.. i know its freaky and weird to ask some random person over the internet, but i really need to talk:( freshman year, i met the most amazing guy on the planet and we became best friends right away. we told each other everything, we talked for hours, and hes seen me at my best and worst. he helped me through my breakup and i helped him with his. theres only one problem (i'll continue in the next message :) )

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Anonymous asked: Hi. I'm in an abusive relationship. I want to get away, but I'm scared to know what will happen if I leave him. I'm already paranoid enough as it is, so I'm really scared to leave him. He's physically, sexually, and emotionally abusive to me. I don't know what to do. I feel helpless. Worthless..

you are not worthless at all and no man should ever make you feel that way. he is not a man.. he’s a monster. you need to contact the police. they can set up a restraining order and they know exactly how the law system works. please get help. you need to get away from him before it’s too late!

Anonymous asked: I've told a friend a few years older than me who goes to a different school

you need to tell someone who you see on a regular basis. last year one of my followers (i’m keeping it anonymous) asked me for advice on how to come out about being abused by her dad. she told a teacher and her teacher told the police. after a month talking to her she told me the police arrested her dad and she moved in with another family member. i haven’t spoke to her in a while but since i’ve lasted talked to her, she told me everything was going really well and she was so happy to get away from her old life. please please tell someone. you do not deserve to live in a house like that. it will only get worse! you need to protect yourself :( please, at least for me and all your followers!

Anonymous asked: My parents are so abusive to me I have several bruises and they won't stop! My friends are gone now and won't talk to me anymore. I don't know what to do. I can't live around all these things anymore help

you need to tell an adult that will help you! a teacher, aunt, uncle, counselor, anyone! this cannot continue at all. this needs to stop! it will continue if you don’t do anything about it. you need to keep your body healthy and what they’re doing to you is completely wrong! please please reach out and tell someone :(

Anonymous asked: Um I'm in an abusive relationship. I want to break up with him, but I don't know how and I'm like so scared. He knows everything about me. Where I live, where I go to school, everything you could possibly think of. He's physically abusive as well as mentally and emotionally. I just... I don't know what to do.

you NEED to get out of this relationship asap. you never know what the future brings.. he’s abusing you now, but it can get ten times worse! you need to contact the police. they would know exactly what to do. do not keep this to yourself. he cannot take advantage of you like that!!!